Un-Spinning The Block: Why Growth Makes It Not Even Worth Wasting The Gas
Just because it’s familiar doesn’t mean it’s safe.
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There’s been a lot of talk lately about people “spinning the block.”
Coming back around like they didn’t fumble you the first time.
Old flings popping back up in your DMs like the past wasn’t loud and exhausting.
And I’ll be honest — I used to fall for it.
But now?
38-year-old, divorced Auntie Lo is not impressed.
There is not one caller — recent or missed — in my Rolodex that would ever make me want to spin the block.
Still, I get it.
Familiarity can feel like safety when you’re tired of starting over.
Tired of meeting new people.
Tired of the “What’s your favorite color?” convo.
Tired of figuring out if someone is being genuine… or just a charismatic red flag.
Now don’t get it twisted if you have boo in the clutch who was treating you good, taking good care of you, but the timing was just off hey… if it seems like a good idea go for it. However this is for the ones you have to question, who coincidentally have their relationship, and ring fingers hidden but on your line talking about “Can I get another chance?”
Tuh… you know what I mean.
So here’s what I’ve learned:
If it didn’t work then, it probably won’t work now — unless BOTH of y’all did some real healing.
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🚩 Why We Entertain the Spin:
• We’re bored
• We miss the comfort
• We think time magically fixes people
• We forget why it ended in the first place
But spin the block long enough and you’ll find yourself dizzy — stuck in a cycle you once prayed to be freed from.
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✋🏾 Why I’m Not Going Back:
1. I don’t romanticize red flags anymore
2. I’m too healed to play dumb
3. Peace > Potential. Every time
4. I’m not who I was when I settled for that
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💬 Final Word from Auntie Lo:
Listen, I’ve made the return trip before.
I’ve answered the “wyd?” text at midnight.
I’ve entertained the “I’ve changed” speech.
But these days?
I protect my peace like it’s pay-per-view.
I don’t revisit what almost destroyed me.
I don’t spin the block — I own the street.
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